A Smoker's Death Wish is Anything But Logical

Wednesday, August 27, 2008 9:44 AM by kimc
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It never ceases to boggle my mind how thin the line is between life and death. While people can survive an astonishing amount of pain and physical trauma, it can take something as small as a glance away from the road or the tiniest amount of a poisonous substance to beckon death's call.

In light of this reality, our parents teach us from a young age to behave in certain ways that will lessen the likelihood of tragedy. We are told to look both ways before crossing the street, stay away from bottles with Mr. Yuk stickers, and avoid talking to strangers. In other words, don't play with fire or you'll get burned.

Averting tragedy is an everyday experience for most. From the time we hop in the car in the morning to the moment we cross the street to go into work, we know there is the potential for accidents so we drive carefully and look both ways before crossing the street. Sure, there may have been times we know of when we have not been as careful as we would like to have been. We may have dashed across the crosswalk without looking, or driven while distracted, but we do not make a habit out of engaging in these behaviors.

With smoking, however, the pull of the addiction can often blindside people from this kind of logic. I often hear participants say things like, "My grandpa lived to 102 and he was a smoker" or "I'm getting so much pollution from the air anyways so what is smoking going to hurt?" I even hear, "Well, I could get cancer anyways, even if I don't smoke, so it doesn't matter that I do." We know the addiction to cigarettes is powerful when it can force people to lose sight of the sensible logic they possess in most other areas of everyday life. How many people do we know who would say, "Why should I look both ways when crossing the street when I may get hit by a car anyways?"

Let the warm glow at the end of the cigarette be a reminder of what wise friends and loved ones have often said, "Don't play with fire or you'll get burned."

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Anna Madorsky us

Thursday, August 28, 2008 3:18 PM

Outside of a couple of months of experimentation in college, I've never smoked, but I've witnessed/experienced plenty of other ways that people get blindsided from logic. The difference between touching a hot stove vs dying from a smoking related illness is payoff...If I touch a burning hot stove just once, I'll be dealing with a nasty burn for days. One second of curiosity teaches you pretty fast. However, the reality is that just one cigarette isn't going to kill anyone. So, in my estimation, comparing smoking to not looking both ways when crossing the street is not a fair analogy. I think a much more comparable analogy would be a toxic relationship, an unsupportive friendship, or a job or boss that doesn't make you feel good about yourself. There's positive payoff (or rationalizations) which keep you there (ie, "Will I find someone/something better?"/"But we have kids together"/"Dividing the house and assets would be so burdensome"/"Sometimes they can be really nice!"/"I don't know what I'd want to do instead"/"It does give a steady paycheck and besides interviews make me really anxious"/etc etc) and negative payoff which makes you doubt staying, and often it's hard to decide/figure out which side of the equation weighs out more for the individual. (And then there's the whole part about actually executing a change in life...) A lot of people stay in those relationships/situations for years/decades before ending it, and some never leave or change. Ambivalence is a natural, normal (often frustrating, at least for me!) part of life, smoker or not.
I wish everything was as black and white and straightforward as not touching a hot stove or looking both ways to avoid getting killed by a speeding car...
Just my opinion. Smile
Anna Madorsky

Crystal us

Thursday, September 04, 2008 7:08 PM

Here's something I heard just last night on a reality t.v. show: "I could get hit by a bus tomorrow, so I don't see why smoking is a big deal."

I wonder if this person looks both ways . . .


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